How to become a role model to improve people’s lives can be quite a challenge to most people. What’s the idea behind being a role model? And why having a role model for you is powerful?
The answer is simple: Why re-invent the wheel? Why make life so much harder for yourself?
Go find someone successful in your field and copy what he’s done. Decide on a role model and follow what that person has done so you may shorten your journey to success; to achieving your goals.
I heard these words over and over again. They floated in and out of my conscious awareness until one day the time was right for me to understand the concept.
I decided my first step was not how to become a role model but for me to find a role model to emulate. Once I achieve my goal, I could be a role model to others: I first needed to learn myself. It seems that many successful people have long realised the power of role modelling and are using it fully to their benefit.
So what’s it all about and why don’t we use it?
Is it because it’s hard work, or is it because we’re lazy, or we simply don’t understand its power? Or do we feel that we have to fail so many times before we succeed: that role modelling is cheating?
Let me tell you, the power of role modelling is huge. It could save you months if not years of hard effort to get you where you want to be and have what you want. Literally!
Why would you spend your time re-inventing the wheel of success? If you want to be innovative, you may do so by all means, but do so after you have achieved some level of success, or are at least further than you are now.
The idea of learning the success strategies from someone first before I learn how to become a role model myself was a great wake-up moment for me. Learn and emulate from the others: they had already passed through the trials and tribulations of success for me.
Why not take aboard their success strategies, copy them, perhaps adjust them or tweak them a little to suit you more, and shorten the journey to your success thereby side-stepping any strategies that don’t work.
Here’s how the simple process works:
Find a person who you have identified is successful in your field. Study that person: read his or her books, watch videos and interviews, listen to audios, see if you can meet the person.
Learn all that you can about the person: what he or she did to achieve success, what specific strategies, tools and resources were used, who they mingled with.
By learning all the ins and outs of their success you can shorten your journey and avoid making the same mistakes they have made. What a concept! Study and emulate successful role models and then learn how to become a role model to help others achieve their goals.
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Filed under Role Model by on Aug 16th, 2011. Comment. 
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How do you get self-confidence when you need it most? Have you ever experienced times where you lacked self-confidence, where you stopped striving for what you were after?
This lack of self-confidence may have happened to you at certain times in your life, as I know it has in mine. Several years ago I remember I lacked the self-confidence in giving a briefing to my eighty team members every single morning, six days a week. The mere thought of it gave me the shivers.
This feeling of lack of self-confidence was the root of many complications that blocked me from holding these meetings. This lack was like a large thorn that continually burst the bubble of my wanting to hold the meetings in a comfortable and calm way.
The first week was hell for me. I felt as if they all looked at me attentively so as to hide their pity for me.
On my day off, after having given my first six nervous meetings, I went to the local library and borrowed their computer. I decided to do a little research on how do you get self-confidence fast. I jumped hurriedly from one website to the next in search of instant ways to build self-confidence, and discovered that they were all saying the same thing. In a nutshell, they all established that I can learn to have self-confidence.
And the simplest and quickest way to kick-start this is to acknowledge and accept that self-confidence is an acquired process; it can be learned and configured to suit all situations. Great, but they did not reveal a quick way on how do you get self-confidence quickly.
I kept on researching. I discovered that in much the same way there were several areas in my life that I felt unconfident about, there are a few areas where I already feel confident. And if I were to think about it further, I would find that I am even more confident in those areas than I might think.
As I delved further I noticed that more often than not, I did not give myself any credit for the things I was confident at simply because I took them for granted.
With that in mind, I started to build on my existing areas of self-confidence, so it might flow into the areas where I was feeling less confident. To do that, I took five minutes each day, on my way to and from work, acknowledging and being grateful of the times where I felt confident.
I kept repeating: “I am so happy and grateful that I did well in my training last week.” “I am so happy and grateful that I spoke well in my meeting with the general manager last Tuesday.”
This ‘attitude of gratitude’ had an overpowering effect on me. These three words made all the difference to me. By the end of the second week of holding my meetings, I felt self-confidence surge through me. I felt as confident and as calm as a speaking veteran.
I encourage you to adopt the ‘attitude for gratitude’ not only to build on your self-confidence, but to improve every area of your life. I learned that gratitude is a vital ingredient to having a successful and rewarding life.
Develop the skill that will just naturally attract self-confidence, happiness and success like a magnet. How do you get self-confidence? Be grateful for the areas where you are currently confident.
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Filed under Be More Confident, Building Your Confidence, Confidence Boosters by on Aug 9th, 2011. Comment.
