There are many people today who have mixed emotions about their current jobs. Some like their jobs, some hate them, others do their required hours while in a trance. This makes me think. I’m curious. Is there such a thing as a perfect job? One that fulfils all our requirements, our likes and dislikes?
I knew of someone who had spent over nine months frantically searching for what he considered to be his perfect job. Every vacancy that he came across had a particular prerequisite that he was unable to do. The last so-called perfect job required that he make bi-monthly presentations.
That was a huge drawback for him. This bi-monthly obligation really had him worried. His biggest fear was not having the right answers to all the questions he might be asked. He did not want to look a fool. His fear was brought about by the lack of knowledge of the product he was to market. He had little courage or confidence because he felt he did not know all the ins and outs of the product.
The great thing, on that occasion, was that he took this insight as feedback. Since the closing period for applications was a couple of weeks away, he applied for the position, and then spent the next few days learning all that he could about the product. He learned the specific details of the product, and what its unique selling point could be. He learned everything.
A short while later he was interviewed for that vacancy. And, get this, during that interview he had to make a short presentation in front of an interview panel of three people. Was he nervous? No. His biggest and only stumbling block had been knowing everything there was to know about the product. Once he knew that, nothing stood in his way.
Just to let you know, he got the job, and he’s loving it. The lesson I learned from his experience was that courage, added self confidence and self esteem can come from knowledge. From that moment on I decided to always be willing to learn. I am now a constant learner. My question to you is: are you willing to be a constant learner to improve on your life?
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Filed under Building Self Esteem And Self Confidence, Building Your Confidence by on Sep 20th, 2011. Comment. 
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How do you get self-confidence when you need it most? Have you ever experienced times where you lacked self-confidence, where you stopped striving for what you were after?
This lack of self-confidence may have happened to you at certain times in your life, as I know it has in mine. Several years ago I remember I lacked the self-confidence in giving a briefing to my eighty team members every single morning, six days a week. The mere thought of it gave me the shivers.
This feeling of lack of self-confidence was the root of many complications that blocked me from holding these meetings. This lack was like a large thorn that continually burst the bubble of my wanting to hold the meetings in a comfortable and calm way.
The first week was hell for me. I felt as if they all looked at me attentively so as to hide their pity for me.
On my day off, after having given my first six nervous meetings, I went to the local library and borrowed their computer. I decided to do a little research on how do you get self-confidence fast. I jumped hurriedly from one website to the next in search of instant ways to build self-confidence, and discovered that they were all saying the same thing. In a nutshell, they all established that I can learn to have self-confidence.
And the simplest and quickest way to kick-start this is to acknowledge and accept that self-confidence is an acquired process; it can be learned and configured to suit all situations. Great, but they did not reveal a quick way on how do you get self-confidence quickly.
I kept on researching. I discovered that in much the same way there were several areas in my life that I felt unconfident about, there are a few areas where I already feel confident. And if I were to think about it further, I would find that I am even more confident in those areas than I might think.
As I delved further I noticed that more often than not, I did not give myself any credit for the things I was confident at simply because I took them for granted.
With that in mind, I started to build on my existing areas of self-confidence, so it might flow into the areas where I was feeling less confident. To do that, I took five minutes each day, on my way to and from work, acknowledging and being grateful of the times where I felt confident.
I kept repeating: “I am so happy and grateful that I did well in my training last week.” “I am so happy and grateful that I spoke well in my meeting with the general manager last Tuesday.”
This ‘attitude of gratitude’ had an overpowering effect on me. These three words made all the difference to me. By the end of the second week of holding my meetings, I felt self-confidence surge through me. I felt as confident and as calm as a speaking veteran.
I encourage you to adopt the ‘attitude for gratitude’ not only to build on your self-confidence, but to improve every area of your life. I learned that gratitude is a vital ingredient to having a successful and rewarding life.
Develop the skill that will just naturally attract self-confidence, happiness and success like a magnet. How do you get self-confidence? Be grateful for the areas where you are currently confident.
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Filed under Be More Confident, Building Your Confidence, Confidence Boosters by on Aug 9th, 2011. Comment.
